[MightyQueenC]

Originally Posted by thingamajig

At that time I was considering two possible responses but thought better of the other. But.... what the h$ll

[thingamajig]

Originally Posted by Wet Chicken

...gotta run, see y'all tonight

There goes our omnipresent theory...

[MightyQueenC]

Are your kids coming to your place, thingy? or do you go to their's?

[thingamajig]

Originally Posted by mightyqueenc

Are your kids coming to your place, thingy? or do you go to their's?

They will be "visiting" (I hate that term in this context) here and arriving this evening. They have been visiting for their christmas break, two months of summer, and spring break.

I try to get out there (CA) at least once for a long weekend between their visits - try to keep the longest time for separation to 6-8 weeks. It's expensive. They are the principle reason I'd like to finish up my work here and get back to CA.

[MightyQueenC]

You must miss them a lot between "visits" (sorry to use that term, too...it does suck). I love my kids but dislike them being around ALL the time, but I sure do miss them (even the bickering) when they go to their Dad's for a weekend
OK that ^^ came out wrong. I mean there are times when I dislike being the sole-caregiver all the time. Get burnt-out quickly, especially when I'm not on top of my game and they all need me for something or the other...
Still...it was a choice I made so must live with it

[izme]

Hi folks, I just spent 15 minutes going back in the post's to catch up

Yesterday was a very busy day. This is my last day on the web for a few months or more or less Going to take a vacation etc.

[MightyQueenC]

Originally Posted by izme

Hi folks, I just spent 15 minutes going back in the post's to catch up

Yesterday was a very busy day. This is my last day on the web for a few months or more or less Going to take a vacation etc.

[thingamajig]

Originally Posted by mightyqueenc

You must miss them a lot between "visits" (sorry to use that term, too...it does suck).

These days, it's as if I live for their next visit. I have fun when they are here. I work when they are not here. There is a real conflict waging inside while I try to find the proper balance of being their father and getting on with my own life.

Originally Posted by DaQueen

... came out wrong. I mean there are times when I dislike being the sole-caregiver all the time.

I understand completely. You need a break from the children in short intervals - not for weeks or weekends. It must be a lot of work being a single parent (that doesn't ignore the children ). It's a difficult situation.

[izme]

Originally Posted by mightyqueenc

*cute*

[izme]

Ok, where is Poochee? this thread is gettin close

[thingamajig]

Should we race him to 3000?

[thingamajig]

Three more posts.

[MightyQueenC]

Originally Posted by thingamajig

These days, it's as if I live for their next visit. I have fun when they are here. I work when they are not here. There is a real conflict waging inside while I try to find the proper balance of being their father and getting on with my own life.


I understand completely. You need a break from the children in short intervals - not for weeks or weekends. It must be a lot of work being a single parent (that doesn't ignore the children ). It's a difficult situation.

Ya...it's hard not falling into martyrdom when it all becomes too much...but as I said, I chose to have kids with a guy who was (apparently) not the best choice.
It took 10 years but we now get along (civil at least) as long as "our" visits are brief and only about the kids. He did give me 3 great boys though and I am very lucky that they're healthy and all that...
Balance is they key: I have put my own (personal) pursuit of happiness, on "hold" for a while....takes too much energy and my energy (such as it is) needs to be directed at the lads for a while yet. I can wait and I have the patience of a Saint (LOL)

[thingamajig]

Are we there yet?

[thingamajig]

How about now?.. HAHAHAH

Sorry pooch.