I know how you feel gpaw!
I have 2 points to address on this topic, one which you introduced already. =)
1)
When valley says that miracles happen often you must keep in mind perspective. In church, when a good thing happens it is 'praise God' and when a bad thing happens it is 'God must have a plan for using this, some plan that we do not quite understand, but will ultimately be for the better.'
Infact, if there is one thing that i have learned from going to church, it is that EVERYTHING can be rationalized by this perspective and nobody seems to question it.
If you take a step back and tally it up, it appears from a logical point of view that there is no trend of 'miracles' favoring Christians or non-Christians. This baffles me.
2)
What is with 'listening to God?' I have NEVER understood this thing. The closest i have ever come to it (and i am half-convinced that this is what it comes down to) is listening to your conscience. Try sitting still with your eyes closed and thinking about an almighty judgement and try not hearing your conscience.
So, are conscience and 'listening to God' the same thing?
The problem i have with this is that everyone has a conscience, even if they do not believe in God.