[Timmytiptoes]

Hi....a question....to see what real people on this site think...

I have a partner who likes to go online and pretend to be someone he is not.
So, he will set up a fake profile and chat to people who think he is someone else....say a 25 yr old athlete......

He will chat with them about many things....sometimes the chat turns sexual and sometimes there is masturbation.

Because he is pretending to be someone he is not, there is no danger of him meeting someone in real life or using a camera. He thinks there is no problem with this behaviour. I disagree.

I know this is an over-simplification of the issue....but do people think this is perfectly normal or see something wrong with this??

[Bastiat]

Originally Posted by Timmytiptoes

Hi....a question....to see what real people on this site think...

I have a partner who likes to go online and pretend to be someone he is not.
So, he will set up a fake profile and chat to people who think he is someone else....say a 25 yr old athlete......

He will chat with them about many things....sometimes the chat turns sexual and sometimes there is masturbation.

Because he is pretending to be someone he is not, there is no danger of him meeting someone in real life or using a camera. He thinks there is no problem with this behaviour. I disagree.

I know this is an over-simplification of the issue....but do people think this is perfectly normal or see something wrong with this??

Oh my, where to begin!

Has he met Mulder? Did he ever use the name kaki?

The sexual part result in the self-help would cause me concern. Doesn't it gum up the keyboard?

[Laura87]

Cheater.

Go with your instinct.

Sorry.

[Laura87]

I'm very sorry.

[Bastiat]

Originally Posted by Laura87

Cheater.

Go with your instinct.

Sorry.

So do you believe that you can cheat in your heart and that's almost the same as cheating in person?
(Its not a trick question nor an attempt to bait you, its a legitimate question.)

[Timmytiptoes]

I sure don't know what to think. He says he stopped....but the emails prove otherwise

[Laura87]

Absolutely.

Lust is one thing (and a big thing at that) Any action toward the "i can have sex even if your not with me" is a betrayal, cheating.

You probably (presumptuous) wouldn't want your wife to do this and I don't think she would want to catch you getting satisfaction with a stranger. I'm using you as an example but applying my feelings, hope you don't mind.

You can cheat with your body or with your heart. If you love someone there is no substitute. Flirting (as has been prove on this board) is not cheating. Everyone does it every day.

Do you agree or can you offer something that I'm just not seeing?

[Laura87]

Sometimes I hate the rule of this board and I would love to speak plainly!!!

[Bastiat]

Originally Posted by Laura87

Absolutely.

Lust is one thing (and a big thing at that) Any action toward the "i can have sex even if your not with me" is a betrayal, cheating.

You probably (presumptuous) wouldn't want your wife to do this and I don't think she would want to catch you getting satisfaction with a stranger. I'm using you as an example but applying my feelings, hope you don't mind.

You can cheat with your body or with your heart. If you love someone there is no substitute. Flirting (as has been prove on this board) is not cheating. Everyone does it every day.

Do you agree or can you offer something that I'm just not seeing?

So you believe its heart and soul in a relationship. That's one side but I suspect you understand that there are others who would have a much "looser" standard as to what constitutes fidelity in a marriage.
As far as my wife as long as she leaves the credit card home I'm flexible. (That's a joke.)

Originally Posted by Laura87

Sometimes I hate the rule of this board and I would love to speak plainly!!!

I'm sorry but I don't understand, you'll need to explain what you mean. What is prevent you from speaking plainly?

[Mulderator]

Originally Posted by Laura87

Absolutely.

Lust is one thing (and a big thing at that)

My guess is you were thinking of Mulder when you said that!

[ekim68]

I think it's a 'cop-out' to go online as someone else...Someone who does that, IMO, loses credibility as soon as they do that...That should be a dream to them, not a reality...And, certainly not a reality to anyone else who is naive enough to respond...

[Mulderator]

Originally Posted by Laura87

Sometimes I hate the rule of this board and I would love to speak plainly!!!

What rule Laura?

[Nekochanpurr]

I'd say yes.. =/ Specially with the masturbation being part of it...

[ekim68]

Originally Posted by Nekochanpurr

I'd say yes.. =/ Specially with the masturbation being part of it...

Why?

[Nekochanpurr]

Because hes actively talking to another person to get off. I don't know how to put that nicer, so sorry.. ^^** At least with porn, they are just looking at something and thats that.. =/ No actual person to person involved. Though.. i dislike porn as well. =/