[Kazoku]

Do you think Spanking is a form of Child Abuse?

In certain degree's i believe so. Children are abused, in part, because they are unable to defend themselves against stronger and more powerful adults. When we teach a child to 'use your words', we must be careful to follow that advice ourselves. Telling a child that hitting is not acceptable, then hitting that child yourself sends a confusing and opposing message.

It’s saying that spanking teaches kids that it's alright to hit when they're angry. That is something we should not teach our children and it is something that we must not do.

[Nekochanpurr]

Heck no. I was spanked as a child, and i know my buns were asking for it each and every time. Will it work for every child? Probably not. But sometimes its the only thing it will work.. Bottom line, it comes down to the child and their personality.

[lexmarks567]

i was also spanked and somewhat abused depending on how you look at it but you don't see me going out and taking it out on people. sure i have a temper but all i do is yell and cuss like most folks.you don't see me wanting to kill someone or me being mentally ill

[valley]

I spank my kids. (my older kids havent been spanked in years, though) Sometimes you have no other choice. We were in a boat with the kids and my oldest son was about 2. He kept standing up in the boat and it was rocking it back and forth. I kept telling him to sit down and he refused...thought he was being funny in making mommy upset. After telling him to sit down several times, I gave him a swat on the rump and he sat down and cried. He was over it in less than a minute. Then he didnt stand up in the boat anymore. I'm sure someone will pipe up to tell me what I should have done instead...but my main concern at the time was that he was going to fall out of the boat and be totally traumatized.

I also spanked my daughter for playing with the electrical outlets. I've spanked my toddler for standing on the table and laughing at me when I tell him to get down (and have removed him from the table dozens of times)

IMO, spankings should be given calmly, in private and always followed with a hug and a talk about why it was done and what could be done in the future to prevent another one.

I will say that I dont believe in spanking a child in anger...thats frightening to a child and the goal is not to terrorize them, make them cower or get revenge but to teach them that there are consequences when they disobey important rules.

I also dont think that kids should be spanked over every little thing. We only give them at times when they are in danger of hurting themselves or someone else or when they are being flat out defiant to us ("Go to your room for a time out" and the answer is "NO!") My older kids had outgrown spanking by the time they were about 7 or 8, I guess. As they got older, they received them less and less and by then, they understood their limits and how far they could go. Nowadays, we remove privileges when they get into serious trouble. So far, so good.....they arent resentful of the spankings they got when they were younger and my older 2 kids do not hit each other to this day. They know the difference between discipline and hitting someone in anger.

Our methods might not work for everyone but they work for us. If you can teach your kids to follow your rules without spanking then thats awesome!

[Skivvywaver]

As much as I love my grandson I swat his behind. It is usually because his mother takes more crap than she needs to take from a 2 year old. She tells him to do something and the first word out of his mouth is no!

I ask him what he said and he says it even louder NO!!!! As the old song says. "It's crying time again" I bust his tail. I never talked to my mother that way and as long as he lives with me, he isn't talking to his mother that way.

[pyritechips]

Originally Posted by Skivvywaver

As much as I love my grandson I swat his behind. It is usually because his mother takes more crap than she needs to take from a 2 year old. She tells him to do something and the first word out of his mouth is no!

I ask him what he said and he says it even louder NO!!!! As the old song says. "It's crying time again" I bust his tail. I never talked to my mother that way and as long as he lives with me, he isn't talking to his mother that way.

Agreed! My dad would get a daily report from my mom and if it was a bad report he would get out his army web belt (the old ones were a very thick heavy canvas) and my legs would turn to jelly at the sight of it. But the worst punishment was from my mom. Imagine an overactive ten year-old having to stand in the corner for hours! I preferred the belt!

[Bush Lady]

My cousin when he was 5 years old, his mother would spank him. The kid would just laugh, when his mother was spanking him.

[Sarge]

I needed more spanking than what I got.

[poochee]

Originally Posted by Sarge

I needed more spanking than what I got.

Same here!

My brother and I had to pick our own switchs.

[twinofangelize56]

When my children were little and absolutely out of control, on occasion, they did get a swat on the rump! Not an abusive spanking by any means! I used time-outs and the worst form of punishment that a parent can use….. I would not send the child to their room…. Instead they would have to sit in the same room with me doing absolutely nothing for a specified amount of time. Boy did they hate that punishment! There was also the time-out chair….. the time-out corner….. and the early-to-bed punishments!

I was a talk it out kind of parent. When the children were old enough to talk, I’d ask who what when where and why! The children would have time to answer! Based on the answer and any further discussion….. that would determine the punishment and length of time-outs! (Age was always a factor in the length of time-out!)

[pyritechips]

I still like getting spanked!

[twinofangelize56]

Originally Posted by pyritechips

I still like getting spanked!

Why, Tiger! You should have just told me! *Pulls out wooden paddle and runs very sharp very long fingernails across top*

Now..... do something naughty!

[Bastiat]

Originally Posted by pyritechips

I still like getting spanked!

You must given how many times it happen to you here.

[pyritechips]

The only spankings I ever got here was from the lovely ladies!

[Nekochanpurr]

Originally Posted by Bush Lady

My cousin when he was 5 years old, his mother would spank him. The kid would just laugh, when his mother was spanking him.

My sis and i used to do this to our mom. Mom got a wooden spoon with a hole in the middle. We didn't laugh anymore.