Ok, i have a complicated problem here

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I didnt have any problems installing RA2 and it works fine if I just play a normal game, but i cant connect to and play the game on the internet.
When i try to go into 'Internet' and 'Quick Game' or pretty much anything there on the internet part it tells me i need an update for the game, so i tell it to download it, and it says finding patch... then it doesnt do anything for a little bit, then it gives me a message that tells me to check my internet connection. But my internet connection is fine. Also, i try to run the RA2 Auto Update, but that doesnt work either
I think I've tried all of the suggestions on the westwood studios/ EA games support that i could find but nothing seems to be working.
If this helps to figure out a solution: I have Windows XP, and i found the patches for the game and installed them (but it still tells me i need another patch), and my computer connects to the internet through a Netgear WGR614 wireless router (i dont know if its has anything to do with the problem but it might.
So, please help me anyone. thanks.