Speakersrock

Yo bro! Welcome back from Cornwall... Hugs!!!

hmm, I do try and be myself as much as I can among our age - i don't want to be anything other than normal! - but then as I grew up, I turned out not growing up/learning the normal way of life!

But yeah, I will try even harder to try and be relaxed more about it all.
I have been spending most of the day trying to learn a game all my rl mates play (and still not got anywhere - which is peeing me off! ) But I have spent a good few hours on the phone/talking on the internet with my best mate while i was learning the game - and even while doing that - we can't get much conversation going. Im now on MSN with him, and its just silence all the way through atm!


Sorry more ramble! - but im just getting very fed up and disheartened again tonight lol! - I understand if you would rather ignore my message for a while now - we do rather seam to be going around in circles don't we!?!!

*HUGS*

I have an idea...just pretend you are talking to adults...then maybe you will feel more comfortable. When I took a class on public speaking they suggested we look out at the audience and just pretend everyone was sitting there in their underwear...it made me laugh. Again Matt, just be yourself...I think that is why you can talk to adults like you do...you are just being yourself.

Matt, you are taking steps to make yourself more "sociable" and that is the way you will become what you want to be. It is a part of growth and maturity. In a couple of years you will wonder what you worried about. Just be yourself and build on that. Be interested in others and just let them know you care about them...that will build friendship.

Glad your coursework is over....now you can relax more. Enjoy your time off. And thanks for listening so patiently to an old lady that at times rambles but is concerned about you. It is nice to know that some younger people can be friends with those of us who are older.

HUGS

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Matt, There is nothing wrong with you typing out a long reply. You are genuinely concerned about your social life and you are just expressing it. I do think you are too worried about yourself and see yourself in a more negative light than other people do. When you are with friends you don't have to be talking all the time. When you do have a lag in conversation, ask the other person if they feel uncomfortable and tell them you would like to learn to keep a conversation going better...ask that person if they could help you with it. They may tell you they have the same problem sometimes and you could help each other.

I am glad you had a good time and that things went well with your friends coming over. Wish the food had been better at the party though. I will be glad to see the pictures when you upload them.

HUGGGGGSSSS to you too!!!

I know you had a good time at the prom but did you get to eat anything? And did your friends behave? You hadn't said anything here to the contrary so I hope all went well. I hope we can also help you with your social skills...I don't think they are as bad as you think they are. I really think you are nervous that someone isn't going to like you or not think you are interesting....but you have a great personality...you are kind and considerate and fun too. If you can just relax and know that most kids your age are in the same boat...everyone wants to be popular and at your age you worry about that more. But I also get a sense you just want some geniune friends. The kind of friend you can talk to about anything and everything. As I have prayed for you before I will again that you will have wisdom in searching out friends and be able to communicate and reach out to the right kind of people and also people that will love and respect you back...cause you deserve it.

I think when my son retires from his job it will make a big difference. His schedule is hectic right now. Hope you are enjoying being out of school.

My youngest daughter, 31, lives less than a mile from me...so we see each other and talk almost every day. My middle child, another daughter, lives about 45 minutes from me...we talk a lot and I do some babysitting for her and we attend all the grandkids birthday parties and stuff like that. So I get to see my daughters a lot more.