haha thanks.

Im guessing your busy week is nearly us now. - Hope it is, I hate being busy!

I have been away for the weekend and was hoping I could spend some time there catching up on the foums, - but no!, I had no internet. So now Im about to go into a very busy week! :'(

HUGS to you to Matt. Glad to see you are back. I have one more week of a hectic schedule and then hopefully back to normal and being on TSG more. Hope things are going well for you. And glad to see your social life is picking up. I knew it would happen, you are such a nice young man. Who could help but like you.

Hugggs Grandma!

I have an idea...just pretend you are talking to adults...then maybe you will feel more comfortable. When I took a class on public speaking they suggested we look out at the audience and just pretend everyone was sitting there in their underwear...it made me laugh. Again Matt, just be yourself...I think that is why you can talk to adults like you do...you are just being yourself.

Yeah, well thanks for all your advise

You it the nail on the head with your last sentence though! - I seam to be able to make conversation with older people so much better than my age. (maybe this is because older people have more skills to adapt to my style of talking - i don't know.) And for this reason I can image it is also hard for you to have a clue what im going on about! - But Im going to keep searching, and talking and talking, until I buildup the knowledge. (I decided it all came about in like, year 8, when I started isolating myself more from people may age - that I didn't not grow up so much with people my age, but more adults. - and I guess that is another influence as to why i can get on with adults better.) - so hey, once (somehow) i have fully learned the ropes of a teenager, I should be good to go!

yeah, well I enjoy talking to you - and I also find your information very useful.
Thanks for that. I hope you are like us and blessed with some nice weather at the moment - and enjoying it!

Matt, you are taking steps to make yourself more "sociable" and that is the way you will become what you want to be. It is a part of growth and maturity. In a couple of years you will wonder what you worried about. Just be yourself and build on that. Be interested in others and just let them know you care about them...that will build friendship.

Glad your coursework is over....now you can relax more. Enjoy your time off. And thanks for listening so patiently to an old lady that at times rambles but is concerned about you. It is nice to know that some younger people can be friends with those of us who are older.

HUGS

Thanks - But again I don't want to keep talking about myself all da time!
Your observation there could be a very true one.
I guess I can back up what your saying, by saying to you that some people I have told about my problems just look at me and wonder what the hell im going on about - But deep down they must think it.

Yeah I will try that, thanks a lot. I know nice of my best mates does, because he is normally quite quiet anyway. But its just how to talk to him about a thing like that.

Once I have finished my last piece of coursework today, I am going to try and learn something my best real life mates have an interest in. The only problem is so far attempts have been hopeless. - But im not going to stop until I have mastered it. So i could be trying for it a long time! (hope its not longer than 24 hours because I'll get very tired! ) - Hopefully, maybe that will add some conversation, an rebuild our relationship a bit more.

Thanks, and *HUGSSS*!

Matt, There is nothing wrong with you typing out a long reply. You are genuinely concerned about your social life and you are just expressing it. I do think you are too worried about yourself and see yourself in a more negative light than other people do. When you are with friends you don't have to be talking all the time. When you do have a lag in conversation, ask the other person if they feel uncomfortable and tell them you would like to learn to keep a conversation going better...ask that person if they could help you with it. They may tell you they have the same problem sometimes and you could help each other.

I am glad you had a good time and that things went well with your friends coming over. Wish the food had been better at the party though. I will be glad to see the pictures when you upload them.

HUGGGGGSSSS to you too!!!

Awww, Grandma, Thats so sweet! Thanks *HUGSSSS*

Yeah, sorry with all the haste I forgot to update the details on how it went on here!
I ate a bit of hard Mellon, and a a fork-full of the vegetarian menu of the meal! (Was just half a butternut squash (, yes the food was as bad as that - But i least I may not die from Salmonella (sp) from the chicken everyone else had!)

Yeah, my friends were great, and they respected that my mum wasn't used to it!
I gave the the option of being quiet and staying upstarts in my room, or being nosy and going the the room downstairs - and to my surprise they wanted to stay in my room! - I really do worry about crap lol!)
I'll upload some pics once I have got them all

aww, thanks. I really appreciate you saying that about helping me, but I don't want to burden you further.

Yeah, well, I don't want to be particularly popular, I don't want to be Chav, nor Goth, I just want to e me, and have a real great set of online and real life friends. I do pretty much have that, but the problem is I am just not an interesting person for my age group to speak to - because I have nothing participially to say!

On Saturday, once one of my friends went home, it was just me and another here. And somehow, we stat here on out computers for nearly 20mins without saying anything! - Thats how bad it is!.
I didn't see that one coming, they weren't put off because of my mum or anything, as expected, it was more me, again. And online too, over the last few weeks have lost about 3 friends because we can't get any conversation going. Same with real life friends I have but not so much in contact with. - Only I'll never speak to them again now LOL!

Yes you and so many others are right in saying a good friend will stick by you - Mine best ones are, but they don't want to - Its too boring!!
Thank you Grandma. Thank you so much for your care, and prayers.
I just hope I can make you all proud and pull my life together here, before its too late and all gone.

Opps I one it again, Look how much I have typed! - sorry.

I know you had a good time at the prom but did you get to eat anything? And did your friends behave? You hadn't said anything here to the contrary so I hope all went well. I hope we can also help you with your social skills...I don't think they are as bad as you think they are. I really think you are nervous that someone isn't going to like you or not think you are interesting....but you have a great personality...you are kind and considerate and fun too. If you can just relax and know that most kids your age are in the same boat...everyone wants to be popular and at your age you worry about that more. But I also get a sense you just want some geniune friends. The kind of friend you can talk to about anything and everything. As I have prayed for you before I will again that you will have wisdom in searching out friends and be able to communicate and reach out to the right kind of people and also people that will love and respect you back...cause you deserve it.