[Farmgirl22]

Random thought: why is every other mother blissfully happy with their role in life, yet I'm not? Does it make me a selfish person because I am tired of feeling chained to the house like a dog? Why is it that if I get tired of it all one time, I'm suddenly a "drama queen who needs to get over herself"??

[ckphilli]

Originally Posted by Farmgirl22

Random thought: why is every other mother blissfully happy with their role in life, yet I'm not? Does it make me a selfish person because I am tired of feeling chained to the house like a dog? Why is it that if I get tired of it all one time, I'm suddenly a "drama queen who needs to get over herself"??

Hi. It isn't every other mother. My wife used to feel the same way. And it doesn't make you a selfish person. I feel bad for you that you are feeling this way, but I would never say that I know how it feels because I don't. No worries, you aren't just a drama queen. There isn't much that I can do but I can give you this-

[Farmgirl22]

Originally Posted by ckphilli

Hi. It isn't every other mother. My wife used to feel the same way. And it doesn't make you a selfish person. I feel bad for you that you are feeling this way, but I would never say that I know how it feels because I don't. No worries, you aren't just a drama queen. There isn't much that I can do but I can give you this-

Thanks, you gave me reassurance, and made me smile. I appreciate it!

[ckphilli]

Originally Posted by Farmgirl22

Thanks, you gave me reassurance, and made me smile. I appreciate it!

Anytime.

[dez_666]

She's my cherry pie. Cool drink of water, such a sweet surprise. Tastes so good makes a grown man cry. Sweet cherry pie.

xD

Farmgirl22, I am 15 and my mom and grandmother don't think I appreciate them. I mean I usually don't say I appreciate them, but I do appreciate them both a lot. I wouldn't be where I am without them. Just remember that as a mother, you have given the gift of life and that is something to be proud of.

[Farmgirl22]

Originally Posted by dez_666

She's my cherry pie. Cool drink of water, such a sweet surprise. Tastes so good makes a grown man cry. Sweet cherry pie.

xD

Farmgirl22, I am 15 and my mom and grandmother don't think I appreciate them. I mean I usually don't say I appreciate them, but I do appreciate them both a lot. I wouldn't be where I am without them. Just remember that as a mother, you have given the gift of life and that is something to be proud of.

Dez, that is awesome...I think your mother and grandmother would be very happy to hear you say that about them. I think it is very sweet as well.

[Skivvywaver]

Originally Posted by Farmgirl22

Random thought: why is every other mother blissfully happy with their role in life, yet I'm not? Does it make me a selfish person because I am tired of feeling chained to the house like a dog? Why is it that if I get tired of it all one time, I'm suddenly a "drama queen who needs to get over herself"??

Becca, if I am reading right you are 23. You want to be able to have some fun and the kids have you tied down.

That is understandable and there is no reason to feel bad about wanting some freedom. You have a husband don't you? WTH is his position in raising the kids? Sometimes he has to let you go be you.

I did it and let me tell you something.................I wondered what my wife might be doing when she was out more than once but, I let her go out.

My wife thought the sun rose and set in my skinny arse. Many times while she was working I came home from work, cooked supper, cleaned up the mess, put the kids to bed and then just crashed. I didn't see my wife for 3 or 4 days at a time. Bec went to work at 4, I got off at 5. She was management and didn't get home until 2 and 3 A.M. All so we could buy this "house".

Well, the house has no Bec and I really don't want it anymore. I have her babies but they really don't need me anymore. Well maybe Casey does.

Enjoy your life, I am pretty sure your husband will help you out. Explain it to him. Let him know you just need to get away. Yes, he will worry his arse off, but that is his J.O.B.

Don't cheat, be a good wife, but DO NOT be a prisoner in your own home.

[wordsmith]

Originally Posted by Skivvywaver

Becca, if I am reading right you are 23. You want to be able to have some fun and the kids have you tied down.

That is understandable and there is no reason to feel bad about wanting some freedom. You have a husband don't you? WTH is his position in raising the kids? Sometimes he has to let you go be you.

I did it and let me tell you something.................I wondered what my wife might be doing when she was out more than once but, I let her go out.

My wife thought the sun rose and set in my skinny arse. Many times while she was working I came home from work, cooked supper, cleaned up the mess, put the kids to bed and then just crashed. I didn't see my wife for 3 or 4 days at a time. Bec went to work at 4, I got off at 5. She was management and didn't get home until 2 and 3 A.M. All so we could buy this "house".

Well, the house has no Bec and I really don't want it anymore. I have her babies but they really don't need me anymore. Well maybe Casey does.

Enjoy your life, I am pretty sure your husband will help you out. Explain it to him. Let him know you just need to get away. Yes, he will worry his arse off, but that is his J.O.B.

Don't cheat, be a good wife, but DO NOT be a prisoner in your own home.

Skyvviwaver that was beautiful, but you maybe surprised how much the children still need you and a home to come home to even though they may never tell you. You are a wonderful person. It takes a lot of courage to bring up children on your own. My son's wife walked out on him and our granddaughter (granddaughter was less than a year old). She just turned 12 and they are both doing quite well.

Farmgirl22 I was a stay at home Mom until they were in high school. There were many times it was very difficult to cope with the not having an adult to talk to during the day. And as soon as I was on the phone one of the children found away to interrupt me. When they were at school I did my best to keep the house clean and do small repairs. There was no extra money for me to be going out and visiting people or buying thing. I found writting in a journel a great help, also reading books from the library. Later on I started gardening, and doing many different crafts. It would be wonderful if you could find some interest that would give you some sort of feeling of worth other than being a wife and mother. I felt trapped many times and luckly for me my hubby help me through those feelings. I hope what I have written has helped. If need be PM me.

[Skivvywaver]

Thanks Wordsmith. Sometimes I need encouragement.

[Farmgirl22]

Originally Posted by Skivvywaver

Becca, if I am reading right you are 23. You want to be able to have some fun and the kids have you tied down.

That is understandable and there is no reason to feel bad about wanting some freedom. You have a husband don't you? WTH is his position in raising the kids? Sometimes he has to let you go be you.

I did it and let me tell you something.................I wondered what my wife might be doing when she was out more than once but, I let her go out.

My wife thought the sun rose and set in my skinny arse. Many times while she was working I came home from work, cooked supper, cleaned up the mess, put the kids to bed and then just crashed. I didn't see my wife for 3 or 4 days at a time. Bec went to work at 4, I got off at 5. She was management and didn't get home until 2 and 3 A.M. All so we could buy this "house".

Well, the house has no Bec and I really don't want it anymore. I have her babies but they really don't need me anymore. Well maybe Casey does.

Enjoy your life, I am pretty sure your husband will help you out. Explain it to him. Let him know you just need to get away. Yes, he will worry his arse off, but that is his J.O.B.

Don't cheat, be a good wife, but DO NOT be a prisoner in your own home.

Thanks Skivvy, my hubby is wonderful about taking care of the baby, but he works most of the day...so he's only home for 2-3 hours before he wants to fall into bed from exhaustion.
I think things would be a lot better if I were done with school and we both had decent jobs. As it is, I'm still in school, so I don't really have a "job" except for studies, housework, and taking care of the kiddo, but sometimes it all just gets to me. I miss the adult conversation (which is why I'm on here so much ) but it's just not the same as having friends/family around to talk to.

I also know that we don't really have the funding for us to go out and about very often, but I really do miss going out on dates with my hubby...he's such a wonderful guy, and I often feel like we are becoming strangers, since we don't really get much interaction. Like I said, he gets home and within a couple of hours he goes to bed. When he is home, he's watching the munchkin so that I can cook supper/do homework/pay bills/etc., so we really don't have a lot of interaction.

I don't know...sometimes it just depresses me, even though I generally try not to let it get me down...or at least not enough that anyone else knows that I'm feeling depressed anyway.

Thank you Wordsmith for your kind words...I'm amazed there are at least 2 or 3 people with my same feelings...I truly did think I was the only one.

[Skivvywaver]

Becca, your profile says how much you love your husband. I know you do. I applaud you for that.

You still need an escape if only for a few hours a week. Hell, you are female aren't you?

Me? Nah, never needed to get away, I just drove everybody else nuts until they needed some time.

Becca, you are not alone. I watch my grandson at times so his mother can go be one of the girls. Oh yeah, my daughter is your age................exactly. 23

I can't stand poopy diapers and I give Mason hell for crapping his pants when I am watching. He almost never does it when "PapPap" is with him. He is 2 years old. He needs to learn a few things I guess.

Monica came to the old man the other day and said " Dad, can you teach Mason how to pee in the toilet?" Uhhhhhhhhhh, why is this MY J.O.B.?

Well, it is my job because...........Mason has no other male in his life to teach him. I am raising my grandson because his "father aka sperm donor" won't. Mason knows how to pee like a girl, but somebody has to teach him to stand up like a guy. I will do it. If not, he may end up gay or something.

Becca, parenting is a life long experience. You don't just get away with "your kids" you are going to have to deal with "your kids kids" .

Do you hear me Grandma?

[wordsmith]

Farmgirl22 remember you aren't the only one. You are also going to school! You do have a full plate. When our boys were small and playing with their Dad I found myself being jealous, for I was cooking or cleaning and couldn't join in. Then one day I desided to cook a simple meal so I could have at least a few minutes with them. Through the years it became a pattern that I would make my simple meal at least once a week. As the boys got older they and their father started to help in the kitchen at least once a week, also. It became more of a family time than a chore to cook. Infact my hubby has became quite a good cook. Our sons not so good cooks!

[Skivvywaver]

P.S. Mrs. Smarty pants, put your birth date in your profile.

I owe you one.

[DarqueMist]

LISP does anyone know why they spell it with an SP at the end?
Do they not want people that suffer the affliction to be able to describe it?

[dez_666]

I hope the party tommorow goes well and isnt awkward.
And I hope I dont do anything dumb.