[eggplant43]

I had breakfast with an old friend this morning whom I've not seen in a year, partly because I missed finding her around when I visited Thermopolis, and partly because I just didn't want to deal with her. She lost her significant other to a brain tumor early last year after nursing him for about 8 months. Within 6 months she was taking care of another mutual friend who took about 9 months to die from cancer that had metastasized to her brain in 3 years post-mastectomy.

She is a very judgmental person, who I've come to see more and more as like my ex-wife. She made sure she put me in my place within 15 minutes of our meeting. Now this is not malicious, as far as I can tell just afterburn from her pain of loosing two loved ones within such a short time of each other, and her complete lack of tact. Kind of like a little girl who points at a fat lady, and says at the top of her lungs, "look, she's fat".

I still care for her, but once a year is about right. I helped her purchase a bed that will nurture her in restoring from fibromyalgia. We spent an enjoyable 2 hours, and now I'm free.

[Gabriel]

Originally Posted by eggplant43

I still care for her, but once a year is about right. I helped her purchase a bed that will nurture her in restoring from fibromyalgia. We spent an enjoyable 2 hours, and now I'm free.

That is a very caring thing to do for someone

[eggplant43]

This friend asked what she could do when Willi passed for the memorial. I told her, and she took care of it beautifully, I never had to give it another thought. I did think of that until I read your comment.

[Shadow Bea]

Originally Posted by eggplant43

This friend asked what she could do when Willi passed for the memorial. I told her, and she took care of it beautifully, I never had to give it another thought. I did think of that until I read your comment.

I remember you talking about that somewhere .. I think.. In any case you are a kind and wonderful man..


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[eggplant43]

Aw, shucks. Now ya got me blushing

[Shadow Bea]

Originally Posted by eggplant43

Aw, shucks. Now ya got me blushing

Well, Purple is your color.. Not sure if pink is though


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[johnnyburst79]

Bea, how are you doing today?

[Shadow Bea]

Originally Posted by johnnyburst79

Bea, how are you doing today?

I'm good Johnny, thanks for asking.. How are things going for you?

[Shadow Bea]

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind

She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her, she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, 'now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him.

Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying. 'Just take care of my eyes dear.'

This is how human brain changes when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before, and who's always been there even in the most painful situations.

Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you b ecause you are a vegetarian

[valley]

thats a powerful lesson , Bea! Thanks for sharing it.

[Shadow Bea]

Hi Val, I thought so too Thanks.

[johnnyburst79]

I just found out a friend of mine has a very controlling husband who will not leave her be for an instant and it angers me greatly.

[valley]

Originally Posted by johnnyburst79

I just found out a friend of mine has a very controlling husband who will not leave her be for an instant and it angers me greatly.

My sister's husband is the same way. She cant go anywhere without having to sit through an Inquisition the minute she gets home. She rarely gets out of the house except for work and grocery shopping. He calls her just about every hour when she is working. He checks her shopping receipts to make sure that the time matches the time she was gone. If the grocery receipt says that she checked out at 2:15 and she doesnt get home until 2:30 (she lives 5 minutes from the store) then all hell breaks loose.

I dont know why people are so controlling. What a terrible way to live. I can relate to the frustration of not being able to do anything about it.

[johnnyburst79]

My father did that to my mother as well. Actions such as those relate more to slavery than to marriage.

Valley, what is your sister doing about it?

[valley]

Originally Posted by johnnyburst79

Valley, what is your sister doing about it?

Nothing. She wont leave him. She is physically abused too and I think thats a big factor in why she stays. I hope your friend doesnt have to deal with that.