[Shadow Bea]

I'm thinking perhaps we need a thread where we can just talk about the things going on in our lives that trouble us or perhaps we are too close to see clearly.. Some times it helps to write about it.. takes some of the pressure off and helps clarify things and sometimes others can cause us to think of solutions that we couldn't see before or give us another perspective, another doorway to view it from. And we can help others do the same
There are people who find writing/talking about personal things easy. then there are those like myself who are more reserved but I still find writing about it to be therapeutic and sometimes it helps me to organize a plan of action. If I am writing about it in a public forum such as this I word it in such a way that it's not making me uncomfortable talking about it. Sometimes, even if there isn't a solution or a plan of action that can be taken.. Just having someone else say I hear you.. I've been there...or Hang in there..I'm praying for you... helps to encourage the person. Hearing other perspectives can give a whole new way of looking at/seeing something and sometimes even solutions So if you feel like talking talk away!!



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[valley]

I chickened out and deleted my post! Maybe I will post it again later on.

[bomb #21]

Originally Posted by Shadow Bea

I'm thinking perhaps we need a thread where we can just talk about the things going on in our lives that trouble us or perhaps we are too close to see clearly.. Some times it helps to write about it.. takes some of the pressure off and helps clarify things and sometimes others can cause us to think of solutions that we couldn't see before or give us another perspective, another doorway to view it from. And we can help others do the same
There are people who find writing/talking about personal things easy. then there are those like myself who are more reserved but I still find writing about it to be therapeutic and sometimes it helps me to organize a plan of action. If I am writing about it in a public forum such as this I word it in such a way that it's not making me uncomfortable talking about it. Sometimes, even if there isn't a solution or a plan of action that can be taken.. Just having someone else say I hear you.. I've been there...or Hang in there..I'm praying for you... helps to encourage the person. Hearing other perspectives can give a whole new way of looking at/seeing something and sometimes even solutions So if you feel like talking talk away!!

Hello. I don't know you at all, but I hope you won't mind this. BTW, I changed your font size because it kind of hurt to read it. If it was that size for a reason (like, I dunno, you have vision problems or something), say & I'll change it back.

Anyway, to get back to what you were saying ... I don't have anything much that I need to talk about right now. A few times in the past I've had things I needed to talk about (example? ; hmm, depression) and ... isn't it ironic that when you need someone to talk to, there usually isn't anyone (appropriate).

FWIW, I tried the Samaritans once. That lasted for about 3 hours and I felt slightly better after, I guess. So that's my point, really; the Samaritans are trained counsellors. Now I'm sure your intentions are good and you may even have some training yourself, but if all & sundry start advising on "the things going on in our lives that trouble us", then we could be getting in over our heads. Giving the "wrong" advice for someone's particular problem could, err, go wrong quite badly, if you follow.

What do you think?

[Shadow Bea]

Originally Posted by valley

I chickened out and deleted my post! Maybe I will post it again later on.

I understand Val, Got your email.. *Hugs*

Originally Posted by bomb #21

Hello. I don't know you at all, but I hope you won't mind this. BTW, I changed your font size because it kind of hurt to read it. If it was that size for a reason (like, I dunno, you have vision problems or something), say & I'll change it back.

Anyway, to get back to what you were saying ... I don't have anything much that I need to talk about right now. A few times in the past I've had things I needed to talk about (example? ; hmm, depression) and ... isn't it ironic that when you need someone to talk to, there usually isn't anyone (appropriate).

FWIW, I tried the Samaritans once. That lasted for about 3 hours and I felt slightly better after, I guess. So that's my point, really; the Samaritans are trained counsellors. Now I'm sure your intentions are good and you may even have some training yourself, but if all & sundry start advising on "the things going on in our lives that trouble us", then we could be getting in over our heads. Giving the "wrong" advice for someone's particular problem could, err, go wrong quite badly, if you follow.

What do you think?

Hi bomb#21,The perpose of the thread Was to provide a place where people could talk about things if they so wished. Not to give advice.. and not necessarily from me.. I don't presume to have answers nor am I a physiologist or a therapist.. I have seen many people here talk about various things that were going on in their lives in many different threads.. It often does help them to gain some clarity just by writing it down. This is more a friends talking to friends thing and not meant to be an advice thread nor an offer of solutions.. and the people here "all and sundry" as you put it .. do give advice and opinions all the time on things that people are going through in their lives.. Some times all they do is say I hear you.. and that's enough. I understand completely if no one wants to participate.. I'm a very private person myself.
The font size is not that big on my screen ..sorry it hurt your eyes. I started this thread because someone said They wanted to talk about something and were looking for and appropriate thread to do so.. That was my only intention

[Wiskycoo]

I think Bea's idea is a bloody good one. *thumbs-up*

[Shadow Bea]

Originally Posted by Wiskycoo

I think Bea's idea is a bloody good one. *thumbs-up*

Hey Elsa Good to see you! It's been a while.. Thanks for the thumbs-up
Hope all is well with you.

[Wiskycoo]

Hiya Bea,

Yes it has been quite some time and yes all is as well as it supposed to be for me...lol...busy as always.

You popped into my head earlier today so TSG was the next step so I could read up on you(which I shall do.)...I hope all is getting better with you as well....still drinking lots of water I hope. LOL

[valley]

Originally Posted by Shadow Bea

It often does help them to gain some clarity just by writing it down. This is more a friends talking to friends thing and not meant to be an advice thread nor an offer of solutions..

Some times all they do is say I hear you.. and that's enough.

I think this thread is a wonderful idea for the reasons above.

Earlier, I posted a very long post detailing the problems my sister is facing and I talked about how i'm having trouble coping with it all. Its really a situation where there's not a blessed thing that you can do. You cant force other people to get help. You cant force them to make better choices in their lives. Sometimes, you just have to accept that you cant always change things. Thats hard for me to do. I've believed for years that "love conquers all" but in my sister's case...loving her and supporting her is not enough. So I am left with feelings of frustration that build up on a regular basis and have become a focal point in my life over the last few months. I hesitate to tell her story for fear of what people might say about her. I worry that I might get hostile to people who might be negative (and trust me..there's a lot in her life that people might condemn..I struggle with feelings of anger and she's my sister) I also worry that she or her family might find out that I am talking about her and be angry with me. So I deleted my post.

But like Bea said...just writing it all down has been helpful. Its already been a very cathartic experience for me. I feel like by talking, I have rid myself of some of the poison that built up after keeping it all inside over the last year. I dont expect answers or advice, even though I welcome it. I just needed to talk and this thread is really a great place to do that. Thank you for inventing this thread Bea...i'm sure it will serve many of the TSG members at different times from now on!

and a big hello and *hugs* to Elsa and also to Bomb, too.

[twinofangelize56]

Hi, Bea ~

Just dropping in to say for this thread. I know what you mean about writing personal things here. I thought of it as just writing in a journal at first... only in the back of my mind I knew people here @ TSG would be looking at it. People that I don't even know and people that don't even know me. The real me.

Then when I read the responses.. I felt really touched...

As I wrote and read the occasional responses, I felt free to write more and more. I actually feel like some of the people here @ TSG are becoming 'my' friends. Not just because of Marlene. We shared lots of friends during our lifetimes and why not now?! Marlene opened the door to TSG for me... and I thank her for that. People here have been caring and kind.... some have been fun and interesting when I have interacted with them in various threads.

I try to be careful to not offend anyone.... I tend to be a teaser at times... all in good fun of course! I hope that people here can express how they really feel if someone unintentionally offends them by saying so.. either by PM (probably a good idea!) or by email.

[poochee]

Good idea for a thread!

[ekim68]

Originally Posted by valley

I chickened out and deleted my post! Maybe I will post it again later on.

I read it before you chickened out. It is a very good read. Stay strong Val...

[valley]

Originally Posted by ekim68

I read it before you chickened out. It is a very good read. Stay strong Val...

lol...that was some good timing, ekim! It didnt stay up for more than 5 minutes, I think.

I appreciate the encouragement, thanks. *hugs*

[bomb #21]

Hi again Bea.

Appreciate the response -- and the font size.

I agree with you that sometimes writing things down helps clarity, focus, call it what you will. It's just that from my own experience, examining one's feelings too intently can sometimes open a whole can of worms that one then wishes one hadn't ... is all.

Hey, one of my personal mottoes is "a trouble shared is a trouble doubled", so you should probably ignore me anyway.

Good luck with your thread. I'll check it now & again since it would be interesting (IMO) to see if any males take up your offer. Cool hat, BTW. Peace out.

(hi back val, from your erstwhile pet heathen )

[twinofangelize56]

Just a couple of things...

Yesterday, on my way to work, a semi-truck going the opposite way kicked up a stone and it hit my windshield! Put a nice circular chip the size of a quarter just left of the rear view mirror. I bought a package of 'windshield chip repair kit' and had it applied to the chip last night. The repair kit only prevents the chip from spidering out.... I know what that is like... I had a car before with a stone chip and it eventually spread across the whole windshield. Had to replace the windshield. Not cheap by any means! The windshield for this car to replace it is around $200! Spending $6.44 now as a temporary preventative is a lot easier to take right now!

Last Friday... I won two separate radio contests! Marlene and I were always lucky when it came to radio contests!!!! (Wish I were as lucky with our state Lottery!!!!!)

I won a CD... Kenny Chesney... (Country singer for those who don't know him!) I was the 7th caller Friday morning while getting ready to go to work!
Later that same day.. I entered an online contest that another local station has... Found out through an email on Saturday that I was a winner!!!!! It's a DVD... Veggie Tales.... This is going to my grandson... of course!

It's always fun to try and win something! I've won cash..... concert tickets.... theater tickets... movie videos..... dinner.... show tickets... just to name a few!!!!

Later today, I'm taking my dog and my cat to the Vet's. My dog needs her distemper shot. My cat needs to be examined... again. I had him in to the Vet's about a month or so ago... He had licked a spot on his back so much that it was hairless and raw! Yuck! Anyway... the Vet said allergies... gave him a steroid shot and said that should do it. Well... it didn't. We made a makeshift bandage and put it on him so that he couldn't lick the area. It healed nicely and the hair grew back... but there were these scaly things! Yuck! Took off the bandage and now he has licked so many areas raw all over his back and sides that he looks gross! The Vet is going to do some tests on him to see if he has an allergy thing going on... or maybe something else! This cat is an inside cat only! No fleas.. thank you very much!! I haven't changed a thing as far as kitty litter, food, etc. Oh well! Hopefully, tonight I'll know more!

[valley]

Originally Posted by bomb #21

it would be interesting (IMO) to see if any males take up your offer.

we already have some guys here who arent afraid to talk about their feelings (Bruce, Skivvy, Fishy, Bandit...and others) so I dont doubt that we will see some guys in here at times.

(hi back val, from your erstwhile pet heathen )

Ya goof!