Wolfeymole, this is constructive criticism. If this rubs you up the wrong way, allow it be a flavour of what you do to others. If you like I can do unconstructive criticism and get to the point far more quickly than this.
Wolfeymole - you've heard of the mathematical phrase "common denominator" to describe a common theme through a series of events?
1.You came to this site after slagging off another. You posted a link so we could go and see for ourselves. The issue was grey, unconclusive, but you got a polite reply from one of the chiefs of that site. You didn't do 'polite' yourself did you? Yet you were probably wrong. You shot from the hip at one free site from the cover of another and that was that. Don't waste your time filling in the details there - I don't care.
2. You read like the miserable old git/know it all character from Harry Enfield who says 'you don't wanna do that'.You remember what people thought of that character? Annoying, know it all, you basically wanted to slap him in the end didn't you?
3. It is not, frankly, absurd for someone to suggest to you that you give the impression that mods are at your beck and call - that is exactly what you give the impression of - your explanations of what you are actually like ('like to get to the bottom of things') is irrelevent to how you actually appear. It is your responsibility to make that connection come across in a way that benefits yourself or paints yourself in a positive, polite manner - you fail continuously.
4. You say you have experience with Mods and how they should act? You say this site is excellent? We've seen how you acted in one site, we see how you act in this one, do you still go to any others now? (Hypothetical - don't answer)
You want the mods of this excellent site to act like the mods from the, by implication, not so excellent sites. Think about possible reasons why this site could be excellent, go on, think before you speak? Any ideas possibly?
5. You've already rubbed individuals up the wrong way at this site, maybe they read you wrong, maybe you meant something else? You are old enough to know it is your responsibility to try and make this not happen. It usually happens less when you get to know people. Yet you have all this experience from other places? When you gonna stop and learn then eh?
6. I've just thought of something. I am being more polite in criticising you than you are normally, in asking a simple question? I think I am anyway, it's quite hard.

Stop and think how you come across.
7. Have you ever rubbed anyone up the wrong way at other sites other than the one you came to this one from, and this one? Hypothetical again, but as sure as big lumps of egg on your face is eggs, we both know the answer to that is yes don't we? It would be almost impossible in my eyes, judging by the way you present yourself, for that not to be the case.
8. Why is it that you cannot see, that jumping into a group of people you do not know, without introduction, or in your case, a self opinionated introduction slagging off another, and behaving as if everyone knows your humour/traits/personality etc. does not work? Are you a 13 year old girl or nearly a grandfather?
For people to get to know you you have to start off somewhere else don't you? Slowly meandering to who you are picking up friends along the way. You drive full speed to where you want to go, knocking people over on the way, and when we get there it's a car crash with people gawping at you! Is that the kind of attention you want?
The way
not to introduce yourself is to put forward questions in a demanding and condescending manner, to people/mods who give their time freely, whilst they deal with problems far more concerning to others, than yours should be to you.
I could go on. I would usually much rather do the shortened get to the point version, but thought I'd try to see if you are beyond yourself first. I'm 50/50 either way on that.
The common denominator is you, obviously.
Now after this, (usually after a fight or a pint, or both

) we'll be friends for ever or we'll hate each other. It's up to you.